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Asatru, Goth, Libertarian: Three minorities in one
I am a writer of science fiction and fantasy who lives with his daughter, three dogs, and two ferrets. My day job is in sci-tech. Love goth and metal music. Looking for friendship, dating, and we'll see what develops. I am trying to make "Viking goth" a thing. Hobbies include collecting knives and swords, shooting, and outdoor activities. Also recently (re)started ice skating. My daughter wanted to try it and I found it's not like riding a bike. Once learned, you do forget. So I've been taking lessons right alongside my daughter. When it comes to personal interactions I have to main modes. One I term "deer in the headlighes." Basically, I have no idea what to say. I freeze. I just have no clue what words should come out of my moutn. I have had folk tell me that this comes off as brusque or downright rude. I'm not intending to be it's just a combination of social anxiety and utter cluelessness causes me to freeze. The second mode is when you get me going on a subject I'm passionate about. Then, the problem is the exact opposite; getting me to shut up. I get motivated about the topic and that just takes over. There's a minor mode I call "on stage presence" which is what I use when doing panels at SF conventions or the like. It's sort of a slightly toned down version of mode two, relying on the more formal structure of the venue to keep it under control. The observant reader will note I'm lacking a mode for meeting and getting to know knew people. I can do the basic "Hi." "How are you."Nice day." But when it comes to getting beyond that I end up either freezing or I've been triggered into "mode two" and the person I'm talking to starts looking for exits.
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