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soockie_PREV (deleted)
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Posted: Post subject: Slow down.. |
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OK here goes,
Moving to fast can turn off the Heat you want to make, that's if the signals there..But if you think by sitting there and its her or him you want to impress this will give you some work, but not by much.
(IF),,you feel that you are working to hard then it shouldn't be..
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Quote: OK here goes,
Moving to fast can turn off the Heat you want to make, that's if the signals there..But if you think by sitting there and its her or him you want to impress this will give you some work, but not by much.
(IF),,you feel that you are working to hard then it shouldn't be..
SOOCKIE
Well that obviously wasn't the best advice or idea in the world... if it had been it would have a) people (other than B----y moi) would have said yeah thats true and b) you'd still be here...
Thank you, please try again
Seriously though, you take getting to know a person on a case by case basis...sometimes its good and feels right to steam on ahead, other times it just feels right to exert some level of caution. You can't set yourself some impossible to keep rule and be expected to follow them to the word every time.
Love and ---- are wild, free and uncontrollable emotions and states of mind - how can you say to put them on hold if it's going "too fast"... answer is you can't. It's like telling Peter Murphy to put on weight or telling the Tower of Pisa not to lean...simply can't be done. If you feel that strongly about a person then you can't just pick and choose when you should love or "jump in" or not.
Of course when getting to know someone new you should listen to your family and friends - they'll normally be able to see things that you, blinded by affection may not be able to see; but ultimately it's your relationship and life and they might not be spot on in their judgement all the time...you call the shots and you're the one that ultimately ends up with this person, warts and all.
And like it or not, you are supposed to work at relationships, unlike the movies they don't just fall into place. It's not going to be Moonlight and Merlot all the time, but you just take the hard work or times as they come.
But obviously a relationship/person shouldn't be a drain on your resources...mentally, emotionally, financially etc all the time. If they is you run (preferably) screaming into the distance
~ Binkey...Indigo Rising mood presently |
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stones4rose (deleted)
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Posted: Post subject: a dark and light side |
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Yeah thats true in some cases the longer you wait, the more you want it, the better it will be. but if your with the right person things will be good if you wait 2 years or 2 seconds after meeting them. some relationships needs to be worked at others just happen. |
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mzedi (deleted)
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well whoever you are your completely right. i dont even know what im on right now, but advice, never have a relationship with a guy thats dating someone. thats kinda obvious, but i know from experience even joking and flirting can lead to ALOT more.
be careful.
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deathandvoid_PREV (deleted)
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Posted: Post subject: Weman men are not that hard to understand the problem -----& |
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Most women want a fag I understand there is an emotional connection but men wouldnt be interested in you unless they want s--. I personally try to fight the urge but as you know most guys are a slave to s----l urges. What you need is a guy that makes it special thats not always candle lit dinners. I like to show a woman what it means to be alive before or would like to my romantic relationships like most of my life were tragic.
Well if you were going out with me I would teach you to revisit the world your views on the world. Night air and all things with the right well rehearsed words some time laminates a better time before S-- though women will always be more emotionally driven and men will be more se---lly driven I have found it is better to make a combination of both. If you make it feel right with all things given.
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moonrose2112
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Joined: January 23, 2010
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I have to say, deathandvoid's post remind me of something Billy Connelly said, where he basically says- "Women need love to have sex, men need S-- to feel loved. So the basic act of continuing the species, requires a LIE from one of them!"
I'm am a romantic at heart, but unfortunately the above is also true.
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